The Deadbeat Dad Epidemic

Here is a subject that hits close to home for MANY of us Single Moms! Not every mother is single because of death or divorce. Alot of us are single because some guy -usually our boyfriend- made us promises, told us lies and took off when we got pregnant, or after the baby was born.

Deadbeat dads are some of the most despicable creatures to walk the face of this earth. Let me be very blunt here...

Any guy who fathers a child and then runs away from his responsibilities as a parent to financially provide for his child and girlfriend/wife ought to be castrated and prevented from making any more children that will grow up fatherless. Any guy that runs with his tail between his legs from all responsibility and leaves a woman pregnant and scared all alone is nothing but a pathetic coward.

A long time ago back when there was still a remnant of morals left in our society, if a man and a woman found out they were having a baby, the man proposed and they got married.

He knew his reputation and integrity were on the line if anyone found out he abandoned his girlfriend and child. Not to mention the guilt he would feel from knowing his child was growing up without a dad.

There was a time when a man's worth was based on his integrity, because "A man is only as good as his word."

Now we live among liars and psychopaths. Today, with the almost complete breakdown of morality in America and the rest of the world, guys (boys) do not care who they have sex with or how many children they have as long as they don't have to take any responsibility for them. You see this more often in the inner cities, but it is just as prevalent in suburban and rural areas.

Naturally, when we make choices we have to live with the consequences of our actions. Not everyone had the privelege of being raised by Godly parents and discovered that they were valuable souls created in the image of a Holy God.

When children are brought up in the world without morals and values, they are lead into anything that will destroy their lives. If a couple feel they love each other and they don't understand the consequences having sex can lead to, they will often engage in intercourse without question.

Why shouldn't they? "It feels good" is the signal the body sends to the brain. Ignorance of cause & effect will often be learned the hard way.

It is imperative that we raise children who not only understand their own value and importance as precious in the sight of God, but that their actions today can lead to severe consequences in the future affecting more lives than just their own.

Children having children is a sad and tragic reality today. And the Church of God should not be judging and shunning them!!!

"If judgment looms under every steeple, if lofty glances from lofty people, can't see past a scarlet letter, and they never even met her....." rings so true from the Casting Crowns song, "Does anybody hear her?"

Children do not choose their parents or a dysfunctional upbringing. We all need to be responsible for our actions as adults, but some teens are not mature enough to be held responsible for actions based on their parents misguided, or complete lack of, instruction.

The parents of deadbeat dads must have never taught their child growing up, "now junior, someday if you get a girl pregnant you need to be responsible." Obviously some serious lack of moral training exists when a guy simply walks away from the mother of, and his own, child.

What is wrong with these deadbeats? These are children! They didn't ask to be brought into this world, and they didn't ask to have a deadbeat dad, who chooses to never meet them because he ran away like a coward from his responsibility to be a father.

Know dear single mother that justice WILL find these deadbeat dads. They will reap EVERYTHING they sow...And certainly on the Day they meet their Maker!

"What goes around, goes around, goes around, comes all the way back around!" - Justin Timberlake

A person that walks away from his own flesh and blood will get what's coming to him in some form or fashion in one or many ways in his life, believe that.

Deadbeat dads who owe child support and are slipping through the cracks in our "(in)justice system" are many. As a Single Mom you and your child deserve the financial support of this deadbeat.

Go after it, pursue it in court, hire attorneys, get financial aid and help, go to the state, whatever you have to do, but Do Not let him get off scott free!

Sometimes it takes more than your local Child Support office to locate these scumbags. You may have to eventually hire a Private Investigator. It's worth it to get your monthly support and collect the arrearages for back support never paid.

Find out more information about Child Support.

Now as a Single Mom, I have come to a peaceful place of gratitude about my life. Nothing happens in this world "by chance" and there is no such thing as "luck"... If a dad is not in the picture for whatever reason it is always a blessing in disguise, both for us and for our child.

When I stop to think about all the abusive, alcoholic, drug-using, irresponsible dads who ARE influencing their children I am really thankful I am a Single Parent.

My children do not have to hear arguing parents at night, or listen as "dad" cusses mom out and beats her. That is a very postive thing! Because I have full custody of my children I do not deal with the headaches of "visitation" and wondering how my children are doing under his custody.

Being a Single Parent has its disadvantages too, but I know that God, The Father has kept deadbeat dads out of childrens lives all over the world to PROTECT them. You absolutely can raise healthy, happy, well-adjusted kids on your own! Always remember someone else has got it worse than you do and focus on your blessings.

Deadbeat dads have missed out by their own stupidity, and were simply deemed "unworthy" to influence and raise your precious child! I wouldn't trade having two great kids and getting ALL the hugs and ALL the kisses for the world.

Do not be angry and hold on to resentment, rather feel sorry for these poor souls that are so deluded they can turn their back on their own kids.